I'd rather risk being called apathetic than say something when people have problems. I never had the talent for giving advises or comforting anybody and I always have the tendency to say or do the wrong thing.
Probably that's why nobody shares their problems to me. People think I don't care but truth is, I do. I just have this tendency to say things that makes people feel worst than better so I always keep silent. I don't dare give advises because for the number of times I tried to be a good friend, I ended up making the situation worst by saying something they don't like.
I mean, I don't think people really wants to hear what I have to say when they are so emotional about their woes in life. Who wants to have the obvious pointed out when you are doing your best avoiding it?
So, I just listen. But I guess it doesn't count or add extra friendship points. I mean, despite the fact that people doesn't really want to hear or follow any advise you give them, they also want to see your sympathetic face and hear your encouraging words.
Problem is, sympathetic face may be interpreted as pity and who wants to be pitied when you want to show the world you're strong? Plus, I never really mastered the art of having a sympathetic face. Also, I don't know of any encouraging words that would make anybody feel good about anything. I have this slight tendency for the morbid and the hurtful-truth.
so yes, i'd risk being called apathetic than risk saying things i don't feel or don't even understand.
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